Girlfriend emails ex-boyfriend's boss snitching on him for skipping work after he lies, manipulates, and cheats on her: ‘I felt completely blindsided, humiliated, and disrespected’

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Giuliana Tiscioni • Writer
Oct 20, 2026 3:15 PM EDT

Is it really worth it to get revenge on a lying and cheating ex who was also a manipulative and bad person? The short answer is yes, yes it is. 

Relationships are complicated. People are complex, and they have layers of personality we can only discover over time. Oftentimes, people have different opinions and ways to see the world, and if the couple's communication skills are not very good, that can lead to misunderstandings, fights, and even dramatic breakups. 

Now, my boyfriend is a doll, but I've seen my fair share of toxic couples whose issues were way beyond not seeing eye to eye on a day-to-day matter, or a difference of opinion. Most of my family members have had terrible luck with their partners, and some of them are once or twice divorced; again, the divorces weren't over simple things, nor were they amicable. Toxic patterns of lying, cheating, manipulation, and even borderline violence were the problem, and in the end, splitting up was the only solution for their mental health and their physical integrity. I've seen what a bad partner can do to someone, and I've become pretty good at spotting the couples who should definitely be breaking up. 

If a partner makes you feel unsure about your relationship, is inconsistent, manipulative, has no consideration for your feelings, and their recurrent tactic is to play the victim even when they make you suffer, it's time to run the heck away from them. Sometimes breaking up will be enough. But with some others, a little payback for all they did to you may even help you get closure. I'm not saying that getting revenge is always the course of action, but every now and then, it's not even revenge: it's just them reaping the consequences of their actions. And that's what happened to this terrible ex-boyfriend who had no consideration for his girlfriend's feelings. 

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  • My ex betrayed me, so I let his employer know what he was up to

    My (25F) now-ex-boyfriend (23M) and I had been together for 2.5 years and were planning to move in together. However, things got a bit complicated over the summer.
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  • In July, he broke up with me because he had doubts about our relationship. The very next day, he changed his mind and told me that
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  • none of that was true. He claimed that he was struggling with his mental health and had been projecting those struggles onto our
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  • relationship. He said that breaking up with me had been the biggest mistake of his life and reassured me that he wanted to be with me forever.
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  • Naturally, I was hesitant about moving in together after all of this, but he insisted that it was 100% what he wanted. He made me believe that his doubts had been
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  • caused by his mental health issues rather than his feelings for me. Eventually, I trusted him and agreed to take that next step in our relationship.
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  • While I've seen a good amount of toxic relationships, I've also seen others that are the blueprints for a lasting and loving partnership. And if there's something that I know, is that a good partner will never make you feel doubts over the fact that they love you. For this girl, this should have been the number one red flag. A person who truly loves you won't ditch you overnight and then come back running, saying they regret it; they simply stay by your side. He didn't, but she was willing to accept him back. If she had simply said no to him the first time he showed her his true colors, the rest could have been avoided. 

  • We rearranged my entire house to accommodate him and spent a lot of money preparing for our life together. He still had a few
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  • belongings left to move, but before he could do that, he went on a week-long volunteer trip.
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  • A little background information: he wasn't working at the time because of his mental health issues and was officially on sick leave. However, he
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  • hadn't told his employer that he was going on this trip. I told him I wasn't comfortable with him lying to his employer, but he didn't seem to care.
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  • Now, here's where everything went downhill. He came home from the trip on Sunday and told me he'd fallen in love with another woman he'd met
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  • there. Apparently, they'd talked about their feelings for each other and had already been intimate on the bus ride home.
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  • I was devastated, but he showed very little empathy. It felt like his head was already with this new girl and that he was only interested in
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  • moving on with her. He thanked me for the past 2.5 years of our relationship and wanted to collect his belongings as soon as possible.
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  • There was very little consideration for my feelings or for the life we'd just started building together. He just seemed eager to get rid of me and move on.
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  • The following day, we spoke on the phone, and he got angry because he felt I wasn't giving him enough
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  • opportunities to collect his things. I was staying at my mom's house because of everything that had happened, so I wasn't home.
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  • During that same conversation, he told me he was relieved that our relationship was over and that he'd wanted to leave for a long time.
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  • Apparently, he'd only stayed because he was afraid of being alone and needed to find a “backup” first.
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  • He also told me that the new girl had a better body than me and that they'd already been talking a lot since the breakup. As if that wasn't hurtful enough, the following day,
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  • he came to my house to collect his belongings and brought her along because, according to him, he couldn't carry everything by himself.
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  • I told him I wasn't comfortable with her coming into my house and asked him to come back without her. This led to a huge argument over the phone.
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  • At this point, I was furious and heartbroken, and I wanted revenge. So, here's what I did. I created a fake email account and emailed his employer, informing them that he'd gone on vacation while on sick leave. I included screenshots of his Instagram posts from the trip as evidence.
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  • I was angry and felt that if he was well enough to go on vacation, pursue another woman, and cheat on me, then he was well enough to work.
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  • Let's recap, shall we? He left her high and dry without a motive, came back saying he was sorry and that he wanted to commit; he made her rearrange her life around him, went away again, leaving her alone, and cheated on her. He had the nerve to be offended and demand things from her without acknowledging her feelings; he tried to make himself look like a victim and tried to lower her self-esteem by talking about her body. Did I leave anything out? Oh yeah, he didn't want to work either. All that thing about his mental health was used as an excuse not to go to work. It was nothing more than that, a cheap excuse. 

    Okay, I'm not usually a vengeful person, but in this case, the girl was totally justified in doing what she did. Besides, she wasn't even lying! If the guy had posted photos on social media, it was just a matter of time till his boss found out. Girly here just helped speed up the process of his own downfall. Even if some of her friends disagree with what she did, the guy got what he deserved. Maybe next time he'll learn to treat his girlfriend (and people in general) with more consideration and respect. 

  • I know contacting his employer was a big step. However, I felt completely blindsided, humiliated, and disrespected. We'd just moved in together after he'd reassured me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, only for him to leave me for someone else days later and treat me as though I meant nothing.
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  • People in our social circle are divided on whether I went too far by contacting his employer, with some understanding why I did it and others thinking I crossed a line.
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